OK, I'll admit to this: When the dating scene runs dry and there's no real prospects on the horizon, I occasionally give Internet dating services a whirl.
I figure, if nothing else it opens you up to meeting some new people from other walks of life. I don't do it a lot or for any protracted length of time. Usually I'll give it a couple months every few years just to shake things up.
Honestly, I've generally end up with a couple dates out of the experience. Not great, but not a total waste either. Turns out I'm not exactly a super chick magnet, but I am just odd enough to get a little attention.
The women I've met from online dating sites are generally very nice people. No real magic or sparks, but then how often is that really the case? I've even kept a couple of them on as friends. I even went to the wedding of one -- as a guest. There have been very few no ways who made it through to an actual date. I can usually weed out the wackos.
I bring all this up because I recently gave eHarmony a try. And after going through the little test they give you, it's kind of obvious how it works. 1. They are really gauging how cranky you are and are looking for people who are either similarly cranky or willing to put up with your crankiness. 2. They really ratchet down the age range to within a few years of your age, but not usually above. At least, that's what they do with men.
I think that accounts for pretty much all of the success stories that they claim. You are obviously going to have more in common with someone closer to your own age and crankability.
Then they really limit the choices so you actually have to read the profile instead of just going, yup, nope, yup, nope based on photos alone.
Having said that, there's still a certain amount of looking at the photos and going yup and nope. So, I just kind of let my profile sit a week to let it marinate with the matches. I looked at some of the ones they said were my best matches and I went "Looks pretty much the same as other sites." I only really went absolutely no on one person and invariably that's the one who sent me something. I'll be nice and reply in kind and if she's a good person I'll talk to her, but I won't get her hopes up.
That's the edating life.
I figure, if nothing else it opens you up to meeting some new people from other walks of life. I don't do it a lot or for any protracted length of time. Usually I'll give it a couple months every few years just to shake things up.
Honestly, I've generally end up with a couple dates out of the experience. Not great, but not a total waste either. Turns out I'm not exactly a super chick magnet, but I am just odd enough to get a little attention.
The women I've met from online dating sites are generally very nice people. No real magic or sparks, but then how often is that really the case? I've even kept a couple of them on as friends. I even went to the wedding of one -- as a guest. There have been very few no ways who made it through to an actual date. I can usually weed out the wackos.
I bring all this up because I recently gave eHarmony a try. And after going through the little test they give you, it's kind of obvious how it works. 1. They are really gauging how cranky you are and are looking for people who are either similarly cranky or willing to put up with your crankiness. 2. They really ratchet down the age range to within a few years of your age, but not usually above. At least, that's what they do with men.
I think that accounts for pretty much all of the success stories that they claim. You are obviously going to have more in common with someone closer to your own age and crankability.
Then they really limit the choices so you actually have to read the profile instead of just going, yup, nope, yup, nope based on photos alone.
Having said that, there's still a certain amount of looking at the photos and going yup and nope. So, I just kind of let my profile sit a week to let it marinate with the matches. I looked at some of the ones they said were my best matches and I went "Looks pretty much the same as other sites." I only really went absolutely no on one person and invariably that's the one who sent me something. I'll be nice and reply in kind and if she's a good person I'll talk to her, but I won't get her hopes up.
That's the edating life.
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